Well, I appreciate the fact that well-broken-in boots are awfully comfortable. But that’s also why they don’t edge for you-know-what. The leather is just so soft that it doesn’t provide any lateral support. And that’s too bad about the Salomon Super 9s. Those are great boots - if they fit. They happen to fit me, as I have a slightly low-volume foot.
Anyway, I’m sure we can find something for you. One boot I’ve been wearing the past year and like a lot is the Boreal Bulnes ($225). It’s a comfortable but tough rough-trail boot, one that has enough heft to take some crampons but I’ve found is just fine for a day hike. They do fit my slightly skinny feet, but they’re a touch loose. Overall, the Bulnes seems to have a fit that accommodates a lot of feet. Asolo’s Annapurna boots ($280) are almost a pound heavier per pair than the Bulnes, but are also a bit more rugged, more on the order of the regretted Salomons. They’re big-volume boots that may work well for you. Tecnica’s Vettas ($255) are similar to the Annapurnas in weight, purpose, and fit. Finally, Montrail’s Moraine AT ($235), is a mid-volume boot like the Bulnes, but one that seems to fit a lot of people, so probably worth a look.
Try to find a shop that carries at least two of these brands and models, so you can compare them side by side. You know what you DON’T want, so that’s a good starting point. I think one of these boots will prove to be just right for you, and will give you many years of service.